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Lincoln Traits

There are some things about the kids that I know I will forget as time goes along, The brain can only hold onto so much information and the BIG things tend to take up the most space. There are just some small things that Lincoln does that just make me smile a bit.

  1. He started this a few months ago. When reading a book and turning the page (he turns the pages), he’ll take my finger and make sure that it’s pressed up against the book so the page doesn’t flip back. I never showed him this – it’s just something he picked up,
  2. I’ll admit it. I’m pretty wiped at the end of most days and can fall asleep if sitting still for too long. So during bedtime, if I do fall asleep – or even stop reading too long for his liking – he’ll give me 3 hard taps right on my daddy gut to make sure i’m paying attention. And he smiles so big knowing he’s done it.
  3. He wants to play outside EVERY SINGLE DAY WHEN WE GET HOME…and no matter how many times we say no, he tries to take a car or hot wheel out for just a litttttle spin.

Favorites….

There’s a reason people have favorites….because those people come through in times of extreme need and all the times in between.

You know who you are.

 

<3

Being Heard

Listening is a lost skill these days. We are often heard on social media or in written form. But face to face communication – I know I often fall victim to waiting for my next chance to talk instead of absorbing what someone is saying to me.

This takes on more meaning as a life long stutterer- really bad as a child to where I had to take speech classes and with varying degrees of difficulty as an adult. There have been many occasions where I haven’t been able to be heard…or I’ve had to change what I wanted to say. I don’t think non-stutterers will ever fully grasp the difficulty this can bring to one’s life (but there are MANY worse things)

With these smart devices, it’s a whole new world. We got out first Amazon Echo device around the time my daughter started talking so it wasn’t something any of us were used to. My son had a bit of a speaking delay but we had ‘Alexa’ in the house for his whole life. He has used the phrase “she not hearing me” so many times when he made a broken English request or was too far from the microphone.

 

The joy in his face the first time, “she” played the song he requested Man, priceless. ANd he said “yay, she hearing me”.

 

Yeah, buddy. We all do. Loud and clear. Love you!

 

-Dad

Computer Skills

I have been struggling with teacher computer skills to my daughter (the newly turned 5 year old). I just couldn’t explain what a mouse did and how to move it and how to click and…and…and. (also, the keyboard layout makes NO sense to a toddler. Why isn’t a besides b???)

Anyway, one day I was giving L a bath, while E stayed upstairs. What I came back to was…she had opened Paint (and a few other programs and drawn this).

Maybe she doesn’t need my lessons so much after all…

To my Allykat….

Wow…sometimes life…just lines up timing wise. I wrote this post in late 2017. A few months before Allison got married to Josh. We have lost touch at times over the years but thanks to the awesomeness of Marco Polo, I get to see her face a few times a week now and share this life together (even though I’m in TN and she’s in IL).

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This is all about my girl Friday. Ok, I probably shouldn’t say girl Friday since those two fall in love at the end. Man, is that a great Cary Grant movie though. Anyway.

It’s weird I think sometimes that the only reason we know each other is because he was dating my best friend years and years and years ago. Well, I guess that’s not so weird after over 20 years. We used to be a threesome and now it’s just the 2 of us. Her “ex” is still my BFF.

Allison and her family have been such a blessing in my life: I don’t remember a time in life when they weren’t in my life. Those all important teen years, I had a fun and safe place to go. And 3 awesome “sisters” and a “Mom” and “Dad” to talk to and laugh with. Who else’s doorstep could you just show up at on announced on Thanksgiving or Christmas and be welcomed in? I was the son Mr. Phelps never had.

She was there in my wedding day and I’ll be there for hers in a few months!

 

2019 kick-off

I’m not a fan of New Year’s…never have been and especially not as I get older. It means my kids are getting older and it makes me stop to think. The years have been good to me, especially lately. There’s joys and events and celebrations and friends and people all around. I feel like New Year’s kinda makes the clock start over again and you want the next year to be better than the one you just had. Anything else kinda feels like a failure. It doesn’t help that I also have some version of SAD and there’s like 10 hours of sun a day.

Anyway, here’s some of what makes me happy 🙂

 

More Things Emerson Says..

I hope to never forget this amazing period of time with the expansion of vocabulary and understanding of the world. There are truly some remarkable things that I hear everyday and I just want to capture/share a few

“Dad, don’t you know I love you very much?”

“I just want to sit across from your beautiful brown eyes”
Dad: “I love you”
E: “I love you too much”
Anytime I wear a button down shirt: “Dad, you are handsome like a prince!”
<3

Disney Girl..

Emerson’s mind is gonna be blow this summer when she sees DisneyLand in person.
Everytime we start a Disney or Pixar movie, she’s started saying “Castle coming” and then hiding in preparation of the fireworks.
<3
Summer 2019 is going to be AWESOME!

The Story of “John Tonto”

I wonder sometimes what my kids will remember from this period of their lives. It’s been so much fun watching them experience new things and just show them the world. I don’t remember much (or anything) from when I was 2 1/2 or 4 1/2 years old…but I think there are probably some foundation pieces that are still in my subconscious.

Which brings me to “John Tonto”. I have been getting a lot of telemarketer calls lately for reasons I don’t know why and I wish would STOP. Let’s just say I’m not always the happiest to receive these calls and sometimes I let it be known.

One day while E and I were out running errands, I got such a call and I told the person to “lose my number and never call me again”. Since it’s out of my typical nature to talk that way in front of my kid (who I had almost forgotten was in the car), she, of course, inquired who I was talking to. Instead of explaining that it was a telemarketer, I made up a person. “John Tonto”.

I thought it’d be a one-time thing. Never talked about again.

Wrong.

It’s been almost 3 months and when the kids use their toy cell phones, they pretend that “John Tonto” is calling them and get upset and hang up on him. They make me pretend that he is calling me and get upset. Emerson has even got her brother in on the act.

Sample Interaction:

  • E: Dad, pretend someone is calling you..
  • D: OK (picks up pretend phone and holds it to ear)
  • E: Dad, who’s calling you?
  • D: John Tonto
  • E: Ugh. Tell him to stop calling you all the time! Grrrr
  • L: (something unintelligible but it sounds like mock anger)

I hope I never forget this memory of them….and that “JT” loses my number 🙂

-Dad